There’s something quietly reassuring about a title like Town & Country. It promises order before you even open the book. Two places. Two ways of being. A sense that life might still sort itself into recognizable shapes if you choose correctly.

That promise matters more than it probably should. We’re living in a moment when very little feels settled. Identity, work, community, even home all feel provisional now, as if they could shift beneath you at any moment. A clean binary, even a false one, can feel like relief.

Brian Schaefer’s novel understands this impulse. It’s a quiet book, deliberately so. Nothing explodes. No one makes a grand speech that reorganizes the room. Instead, the story unfolds through atmosphere, small interactions, and the steady accumulation of unease. You’re asked to notice how people move through their lives rather than what they accomplish inside them.

The divide between town and country isn’t really about geography. It’s about the fantasy that somewhere else exists a version of life that would feel more coherent. The town carries performance, proximity, the sense of always being observed. The country offers distance, silence, the hope that you might finally loosen your grip on who you’re expected to be. Neither place quite delivers. But the desire to choose between them remains powerful.

That tension is most clearly embodied in Will. His coming out is not treated as a dramatic turning point, and that choice feels intentional. There’s no neat before and after. Instead, disclosure becomes the beginning of a longer, more uncomfortable process: how to exist more honestly without becoming newly exposed, how to be seen without being defined entirely by what has been revealed.

Will’s tentative connection to the Duffels captures this beautifully. The group offers something he wants badly: community, structure, a sense of belonging that doesn’t require explanation. But even here, belonging comes with conditions. The novel is attentive to how community can feel both sheltering and restrictive, especially for someone still learning where the edges of the self lie.

There’s something painfully familiar in this. Coming out doesn’t automatically solve the problem of loneliness. It often sharpens it. You trade one form of invisibility for another, learning that acceptance can still carry expectations, and that being welcomed doesn’t always mean being fully known.

Schaefer’s prose mirrors this emotional landscape. It’s restrained, careful, often holding feeling just short of full expression. That restraint doesn’t feel cold. It feels protective. As if the book understands how risky it can be to say too much, to want too much, to ask for clarity the world may not be able to offer.

This places Town & Country firmly within a broader strain of contemporary fiction that favors the small and the contained. Limited casts. Modest stakes. Interiors rather than events. These novels don’t try to diagnose the entire culture. They focus instead on how it feels to live inside it. In a world that often feels too loud, this kind of attention can feel like mercy.

At the same time, the novel gestures quietly toward questions of class and mobility. Town and country are not equally available choices, and the freedom to move between them carries its own privilege. Schaefer never presses this point aggressively. Sometimes the tension dissolves back into atmosphere. But the discomfort lingers, which may be the point.

There’s also an unavoidable political undercurrent to the town-and-country divide, one the novel gestures toward without fully interrogating. The ability to move “to the country” is rarely neutral. It often arrives with money, with taste, with the quiet confidence that one’s presence will be welcomed or at least tolerated. What gets described as escape can look, from another angle, like displacement. Rural spaces become aesthetic backdrops for urban exhaustion, shaped to meet the emotional needs of newcomers while long-standing communities absorb the cost. Schaefer doesn’t make villains of this dynamic, but its shadow lingers. The country promises authenticity and relief, yet that promise is often built on uneven ground.

What stays with me most is the sense of suspension. Will exists between versions of himself, between places, between communities. The novel refuses to rush him toward resolution. The town never entirely releases its hold. The country never fully redeems. Even the Duffels offer connection without certainty.

That feels honest. Most of us don’t arrive cleanly at the lives we imagine for ourselves. We circle them. We test them. We stand halfway inside one world while still feeling the pull of another.

In that way, Town & Country delivers something more complicated than its title suggests. The comfort isn’t in choosing one side or the other. It’s in recognizing how many of us are living in the in-between, trying to build meaning without the reassurance of clear borders.

The binary promises clarity. The novel offers recognition. And right now, that may be the more generous gift.

Editor’s note: I first encountered Town & Country through ’s interview with , which I listened to before reading the novel itself.

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I bought my copy of Tin Man this summer — in New York, on the same trip when we went to see Cole Escola in their final week of Oh Mary! The show was pure queer delirium: a tornado of camp brilliance, Timing so sharp it could have shaved the walls, and laughter that left my face aching in that rare, euphoric way only queer theater can produce. It was a night of joy, that full-body kind that makes you forget about gravity for a while. If you didn’t catch it, it’s worth a read.

The next morning, I wandered into the Upper East Side location of the Strand. I wasn’t looking for anything in particular — maybe a staff pick, maybe a paperback for the trip back. On a display table near the front, I saw a small handwritten card taped beneath a slim book with a bright, unassuming cover. The note read, more or less:

“Skip A Little Life. Read this instead.”

Bookstore shade is usually subtle. This was not. And because it was about A Little Life, it stopped me cold. You don’t publicly position a 210-page novel against a thousand-page monolith of queer literary suffering unless you’re trying to say something. The bluntness caught my attention, but what really lingered was the promise underneath it:

maybe there was a queer story out there unafraid to be tender without being annihilating.

So I picked up Tin Man, slipped it into my bag, and carried it back home. I didn’t read it right away. I waited until a quiet Sunday morning, when I could give it the kind of attention the booksellers had practically demanded.

And they were right.

Not because Tin Man is better than A Little Life, but because it is attempting something entirely different — something smaller, gentler, and, in many ways, truer.

The Softness of Boyhood

Early in Tin Man, Ellis’s mother brings home a framed print of Van Gogh’s Sunflowers. She’s won it in a raffle at work. Her choice is between the painting and a microwave, and she doesn’t hesitate: she picks the painting. The detail is small, almost throwaway, but it tells you something crucial — she believes beauty belongs in a home, even if practicality might argue otherwise.

That decision shapes Ellis more than he realizes. The sunflowers become part of the emotional landscape of his boyhood: an opening, a hint of possibility, an invitation into color for a kid who isn’t used to seeing the world arranged that way.

It’s not a symbol that carries the weight of the novel. It’s simply accurate. And, in its accuracy, tender.

Ellis meets Michael when they are boys — adolescents stumbling into themselves with an instinctive mutual recognition queer kids often share long before they know what queerness is. Their friendship is immediate, intense, and intimate in the specific way boyhood friendships can be before the world teaches boys to shut the doors behind their feelings.

Reading their early chapters, I kept thinking of a friend from college — the one I wrote about in my essay, Billy and the Kid. Ours was a friendship, full and complete. Whatever feelings I carried were mine alone, unspoken then and never reciprocated. But the closeness — the sense of seeing and being seen without having the language to name it — that part echoed. That part resonated in the marrow.

There’s something about those years, when connection feels almost electric but you don’t yet know what to do with that current. Ellis and Michael move around each other with that same unarticulated tenderness. They are not lovers. They are not even certain what they are. But they are something.

And sometimes “something” is the thing that shapes you the most deeply.

The Bend Toward Adulthood

The truth about growing up — especially if you’re queer and closeted — is that the life you want and the life you choose aren’t always the same thing.

Ellis grows up and marries Annie. Their marriage is kind, steady, and comfortable, the kind of relationship that looks perfectly respectable from the outside. Yet there’s an emotional muting to his adulthood, a sense that something vital was carefully folded away and stored out of sight. He loves Annie; that isn’t the question. But there is a hollowness beneath the tenderness, as if he’s living the life he was supposed to choose rather than the one that ever chose him.

Michael drifts into a different orbit — Oxford, then London, then relationships that flicker and fade. His life is looser, more porous, sometimes joyful, sometimes lonely. There’s sex and casual intimacy, but also a kind of hunger. You have the sense, reading him, that he’s searching for something he tasted only once, in those early years with Ellis.

Winman doesn’t make this dynamic tragic. She makes it human.

And that’s where Tin Man hits its deepest nerve. Not in the heartbreak itself, but in the ordinariness of the aching.

I felt that in my own bones. I spent decades building the life I believed I was meant to live — the marriage, the children, the job, the orderly choreography of heterosexual adulthood. It was a life that looked right. It was a life that worked. It was a life I loved in many ways. But it wasn’t built on the truth I eventually learned to claim.

Ellis’s adulthood is familiar because it mirrors the emotional economy so many men are taught to navigate: choose safety over longing, stability over honesty, quiet satisfaction over open vulnerability. And for a long time, those choices work.

Until they don’t.

Until the unlived life starts to whisper.

Michael’s Part — Grief That Moves Like Weather

Michael’s section of the novel is structurally different — a shift in voice, in rhythm, in emotional weather. It’s quieter, more fragile, like listening to someone speak from slightly behind a closed door.

His loneliness is real but never theatrical. The AIDS crisis enters the story not as melodrama or spectacle but as atmosphere — an undertone of fear, loss, and the relentless responsibility of surviving.

Winman handles queer grief with a kind of restraint that aches. There are no sweeping death sentences. No grand monologues. Just the slow eroding of a life shaped by love that was never fully allowed to reach daylight.

Michael’s memories of Ellis — the boyhood, the closeness, the almost-but-not-quite — become the axis around which his adult life turns. Not obsessively. Just quietly. The way a compass needle always finds north even when you aren’t looking.

This kind of devotion doesn’t require romance. It doesn’t require reciprocation. It doesn’t even require articulation.

It simply is.

And that felt familiar too — not in the specifics, but in the emotional shape. The recognition of someone who mattered deeply, profoundly, in a way that didn’t need a label at the time and doesn’t need one now. Someone whose impact didn’t fade just because the connection stayed safely within the limits of friendship.

Tin Man vs. A Little Life: The Difference Between Ache and Ordeal

Now we get to the comparison the Strand bookseller made so boldly.

A Little Life is enormous — thousands of emotional tons, a cathedral of suffering built with meticulous, almost obsessive detail. It is a story where pain is not just present but structural, where trauma becomes a kind of gravitational force. Some people find it cathartic. Some find it punishing. Almost no one reads it casually.

Tin Man is the opposite in scale and philosophy.

Its heartbreak is quiet, tenable, the kind of ache real people survive every day. It doesn’t try to overwhelm you. It doesn’t treat suffering as destiny. It doesn’t mistake devastation for depth.

Where A Little Life feels operatic, Tin Man feels lived.

Where one asks you to endure, the other asks you to remember.

Where one builds a monument to pain, the other traces the small fractures that make a life tender and recognizable.

Both books matter. Both have a place. But Winman is doing something different — something smaller in scope, but in many ways more radical: she portrays queer lives without spectacle.

Pain is present, yes. But it’s the kind you can hold in your hands without burning yourself.

And for many of us, that’s the more honest story.

Art as Memory, Not Moral

The sunflowers in Tin Man aren’t a heavy metaphor. They’re simply a detail — a correct one — and one that threads quietly through Ellis’s life. They don’t transform him. They don’t illuminate some grand theme. They simply accompany him, the way a familiar song or a photograph or a certain smell can accompany anyone across decades.

That’s what art does.

It doesn’t save us.

It shadows us.

Writing does that too.

When I wrote Billy and the Kid, I wasn’t rewriting history or confessing something long hidden. I was naming something that had lived quietly in me for years — the significance of a friendship I didn’t fully understand at the time. I wasn’t constructing a romance; I was honoring a memory.

That’s why Tin Man resonated so deeply. It treats memory as an active force, not a sentimental one. It allows love to matter even when it never crossed the threshold of articulation.

It lets tenderness live without requiring permission.

The Life That Wasn’t Lived

The final chapters of Tin Man are devastating in their simplicity. Ellis and Michael’s story doesn’t resolve. It doesn’t need to. The power of their relationship was never in the conclusion; it was in the fact that it shaped them even when unspoken.

Not every love story needs to be lived to be true.

Not every true thing needs an ending to matter.

The unlived life has weight.

The unspoken feeling has presence.

The connection left incomplete can still define the trajectory of a person’s heart.

And maybe that’s why the Strand bookseller recommended Tin Man over A Little Life. Not because one is better, but because one understands that the quieter sorrows — the ones we don’t name, the ones we fold into memory rather than plot — can be just as formative as the spectacular ones.

What the Book Left Me With

When I set Tin Man down a few days ago, I didn’t feel shattered. I felt seen. I felt understood in a way I hadn’t expected from such a small novel.

Here’s what stayed with me:

• That boyhood tenderness is real, even when it remains undefined.

• That adulthood can close doors we didn’t realize we’d opened.

• That grief can move like weather — sometimes heavy, sometimes barely felt — without ever leaving the landscape.

• That memory can be a form of devotion.

• That some relationships matter even when they live entirely within the realm of friendship.

• That not every queer story needs to be a tragedy to be profound.

Mostly, though, the book reminded me that the unlived life doesn’t disappear.

It stays.

It shapes us.

It waits for us to acknowledge it.

And if we’re lucky — we finally do.

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I don’t usually read eight-hundred-page novels about other people’s pain. But back when I was driving eighty miles a day for hospital work, Audible became my companion. After a dozen books, its algorithm seemed to know my taste better than I did. One morning it queued up a title I’d never heard of—A Little Life.

The blurbs were glowing, the cover was striking, and everyone called it the great modern gay novel. Matt Bomer was even the narrator. It had everything.

So I listened—all eight hundred brutal, exhausting pages. When I finished, I felt stunned, almost reverent. Then I learned that none of it was real. The story wasn’t drawn from anyone’s life; it was wholly invented by a straight woman who later said the characters’ sexuality was “incidental.”

That revelation changed everything. What I’d taken as witness suddenly felt like reenactment.

If queerness was incidental, then why is Peter Hujar’s Orgasmic Man—one of the most iconic photographs of gay desire—on the cover?

The photograph that fooled me

I honestly thought it was Matt Bomer on the jacket—how could I not? The expression, the bone structure, the intimacy. It looked like a publicity shot from the audiobook itself. Only when I sat down to write about it did I realize how wrong I was.

Orgasmic Man was taken in 1969 by Peter Hujar, a photographer who chronicled New York’s queer underground long before it was safe to be visible. Hujar’s portraits captured the vulnerability of drag performers, lovers, and friends in a community later decimated by AIDS. His images are devotional, not voyeuristic—windows into private worlds that most of the world ignored.

The man in the photo is artist and activist David Wojnarowicz, caught mid-ecstasy, head thrown back, eyes closed. It isn’t just erotic; it’s defiant—a moment of joy wrested from a hostile world. Hujar died of AIDS in 1987. His work now stands as testimony, a record of queer life lived on its own terms.

So discovering that this photograph graces the cover of a novel written by someone who described her characters’ sexuality as “incidental” felt jarring. The image carries decades of history; the story inside, none.

That realization became my way back into the book—not as readerly admiration, but as an autopsy of empathy gone wrong.

A marathon of misery

Hanya Yanagihara has said she wanted to write about friendship and devotion pushed to extremes. She chose gay male characters, she explained, because it freed her from the expectations of straight fiction—no marriages, no children, no conventional resolutions. It’s a strange kind of liberation, to use queerness as narrative freedom while erasing its reality. What she created instead was a closed system of suffering.

At the center stands Jude St. Francis, a man marked by every cruelty imaginable: childhood abuse, sexual assault, self-harm, addiction, paralysis, suicide. The prose is controlled, the pacing deliberate, the intent—empathy, perhaps—sincere. But after hundreds of pages, the horror ceases to illuminate and begins to accumulate. Each new trauma arrives not as revelation but as escalation.

Critics adored it. The New Yorker called it “subversively brilliant.” The Washington Post found it “devastating.” Even readers who hated it couldn’t look away. For many, the sheer intensity of pain felt profound. For others—especially queer men—it felt abstract, as though someone had imagined our anguish in perfect detail but missed our lives entirely.

Real experience is rarely this operatic. There are contradictions, humor, long quiet stretches between the moments that hurt. Without those textures, suffering becomes a special effect.

When fiction masquerades as testimony

Yanagihara never claimed autobiography. She called her novel a “fairy tale for adults,” a study in friendship and devotion, a “mythic” rendering of love. The problem isn’t that she wrote outside her experience—writers do that constantly—but that the culture received her invention as representation.

When A Little Life arrived, reviews described it as a work of radical empathy. Readers spoke of being “devastated” and “changed.” That language belongs to witness literature, to stories told from the inside. Yet this one came from the outside, and few seemed to notice.

Imagine a white novelist writing an eight-hundred-page saga of Black pain, then explaining that race was “incidental.” The backlash would be instant. But a woman writing about gay men? That distance was reframed as sensitivity.

Empathy from an outsider can look generous to the audience it comforts and false to the one it represents.

The James Frey comparison

The difference between fabrication that enrages us and fabrication that earns prizes isn’t honesty; it’s permission.

When James Frey published A Million Little Pieces in 2003, he called it a memoir of addiction and recovery. It sold millions until journalists discovered that large parts were invented. Oprah Winfrey, who had championed the book, publicly confronted him. Frey was shamed for bending truth in a genre that requires it.

Yanagihara, on the other hand, fabricated everything and was celebrated for it. She built a world of invented queer trauma, sold as empathy, and collected awards.

If Frey was punished for pretending his fiction was real, Yanagihara was rewarded for making her fiction feel real enough. That’s not ethics; that’s appetite.

Who gets to tell whose story

Over the past decade, a number of bestselling novels about gay men have come from straight women. They’re often graceful and compassionate, but the pattern is revealing: queer men remain the subjects of art, not its authors.

No one’s arguing that only insiders can write across difference, but power matters. When outsiders dominate the telling, empathy becomes replacement. Editors still believe a mainstream readership prefers “sensitive” gay stories filtered through a female author. That’s not inclusivity; it’s marketing.

Representation isn’t improved by displacement.

Authenticity versus comfort

The success of A Little Life shows how eager we are for safe empathy. The novel allows readers to feel compassionate without facing the mess of real queer lives—funny, ordinary, contradictory. Authenticity has always been slippery in art, but declaring identity “incidental” erases the world that shaped it. Maybe it takes a certain kind of privilege to believe identity can ever be incidental—and I say that as someone who’s benefited from that illusion.

That’s the ache behind the praise: a sense that the book gave audiences an emotional workout but taught them nothing about the people it seemed to portray.

The Stephen Fry mirror

Consider the contrast. When Stephen Fry spoke openly about his depression, addiction, and sexuality, he was called self-indulgent. When he wrote about those same experiences in Moab Is My Washpot and later memoirs, critics accused him of oversharing. He told the truth of a gay man’s life and was chastised for honesty.

Yanagihara imagined that life from afar and was praised for her empathy.

That’s the gap between comfort and truth—and it says everything about where we still stand.

“If James Frey was punished for pretending his fiction was real, Hanya Yanagihara was rewarded for convincing readers her fiction was real enough.”

Author’’s note: The Peter Hujar image on the original cover of A Little Life features an unidentified subject, not David Wojnarowicz as sometimes reported. The first audiobook was narrated by Oliver Wyman; a new version recorded by Matt Bomer was released in 2025.

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There’s something quietly rebellious about walking out of a used bookstore with an armful of paperbacks. Not first editions or collector’s items—just books that have survived somebody else’s dorm room, somebody else’s nightstand, somebody else’s life. In a time when entire libraries can vanish with a few keystrokes, buying physical books feels like an act of resistance.

I used to think the Kindle was liberation. A thousand books in my pocket, every title available instantly. I was an early adopter and immediately saw that physical books were going to join the other analog media that I had been quietly getting rid of since the early 2000s. But digital libraries aren’t libraries; they’re leases. You don’t own what’s on your Kindle. Amazon does.

I learned that the hard way. When the Fellow Travelers miniseries came out, the Kindle edition of the novel vanished—and so did the copy I’d already bought. Not “unavailable,” not “temporarily removed.” It was gone. The cover disappeared from my library, and even my Amazon order history showed nothing. For weeks it was as if I’d imagined the whole thing. Then it quietly reappeared under a new tie-in edition, ready to be bought again.

It’s back now, of course. But that almost makes it worse. Stories shouldn’t blink in and out of existence without explanation. The glitch passed, but the message stayed: a digital bookshelf can be rewritten at any moment.

And I don’t think it would take much—one phone call, one email from the right office—for a book to disappear. George Orwell’s 1984, of all things, once vanished from Kindles overnight because of a licensing dispute. The idea that a government—or a corporation—could erase a title isn’t dystopian anymore; it’s customer service. One click, and the bookshelf is clean.

So I’ve started buying the things I can hold.

McKay’s and the Box Set That Started It

I first wandered into a McKay’s used books in Knoxville, TN years ago and left with the complete Twin Peaks box set—a gift, technically, but really a calling. McKay’s is a regional chain with locations in TN and NC. Each store is a fluorescent labyrinth where college kids sell everything they got for Christmas the minute they get back to campus, and the rest of us go to buy back the physical media we’d sworn off. Every aisle smells faintly of dust and déjà vu.

When David Lynch passed away earlier this year, I thought back to that box set, and sat down to rewatch the series. It felt like handling a sacred relic—grainy, electric, unsettling in all the right ways. No digital enhancement, it looked and sounded exactly as it did when the show originally aired on ABC in 1991. Streaming would have sanded off its edges; the DVD made them unavoidable. That was the moment I realized: you can’t count on the cloud to preserve the weird, the daring, or the banned. You have to keep your own archive.

The 22-Point Rebellion

I’ll admit it’s not as easy as it used to be. My eyes have joined the protest. Now I read with thick glasses instead of bumping the Kindle font up to 22-point—the size where three sentences fill the screen and everyone on the plane can read along with me. From behind, I probably look ridiculous: hunched over a paperback, head tilted toward the lamp. But I don’t care. Every page I turn feels like proof that I still own something no algorithm can resize or remove.

The Late Arrival

The strangest part of all this is discovering it at forty-five. Not as a teenager sneaking a paperback into my book bag, but as an adult with an education and decades of hindsight. Reading and watching now isn’t about rebellion; it’s about recognition.

When I finally opened Giovanni’s Room, I didn’t feel like a latecomer—I felt like someone who had finally learned the language for feelings I’d been translating my whole life. Coming to these works with forty-five years of lived experience is different. You see what they were really saying. You see yourself, and it’s both heartbreaking and electric.

The Fear That Follows

That’s what really scares me—not losing access for myself, but imagining some fifteen-year-old out there trying to find comfort in the same stories I denied myself and finding nothing. The titles have been pulled, the pages quarantined under “review,” the files deleted. I keep buying these books now because I want them to exist somewhere—on a shelf, not a server. Within reach of whoever needs them next.

Banned Books Week

This week happens to be Banned Books Week, which feels almost too on the nose. Even Bookshop.org emailed out a list of their most challenged titles, complete with ISBNs and a 20 percent discount code. I’ll have my own checklist as a free download below, but I’m also setting up a separate Bookshop shelf for anyone who wants to browse those same banned books directly and support indie stores in the process.

I’m forty-five and finally reading what I should have read at twenty. Watching what I was scared to watch. Holding the things that once made other people uncomfortable and realizing they make me whole. That’s reason enough to build a library you can touch.

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1996: Two Worlds

In the fall of 1996, I was unpacking boxes in a dorm room at Hampden-Sydney College, a rural all-male school in Virginia. The walls were cinderblock, the mattresses thin, the air thick with mildew, cologne, and cigarette smoke. The rituals were familiar to anyone who has been through fraternity life: pledge line-ups, late-night drills, forced memorization of founders’ names, humiliations meant to pass as tradition.

It was a world where masculinity wasn’t just expected — it was demanded. You learned how to drink, how to carry yourself at a party, how to talk about women, and how to keep any sign of difference hidden. To fall in love with another boy wasn’t simply off-limits. It was unimaginable.

That same year, three time zones away, Jeremy Atherton Lin was falling in love. He met a mumbling, starry-eyed Brit named Jamie — the beginning of what would become a decades-long relationship. While I was memorizing the Greek alphabet on command, he was stumbling into a future.

Same year, same age bracket, but we might as well have been on different planets.

Love in the Shadow of DOMA

“In 1996, the state declared us illegitimate. We were already legitimate to each other.”

Deep House: The Gayest Love Story Ever Told frames Atherton Lin’s romance against the backdrop of the Defense of Marriage Act. DOMA was Congress’s attempt to wall off intimacy itself, denying federal recognition to same-sex couples and stripping away immigration sponsorship rights. For Jeremy and Jamie, that meant their partnership wasn’t just unofficial — it was actively invalidated. Jamie’s decision to overstay a tourist visa made it illegal.

What makes Deep House so powerful is how quietly it works. Atherton Lin doesn’t rage at the injustice, though he could. Instead, he shows how law seeps into the ordinary: the kitchen table, a border checkpoint, the silence of a shared bed. He drifts between second-person addresses to Jamie, historical digressions, queer archives, even detours into case law. The structure is fragmented, but that’s the point. Queer life has always been lived half in the open, half in the cracks.

And yet, what lingers is the sheer improbability of endurance. In 1996, gay men in mainstream culture were still written as tragic figures or comic relief. To imagine two twenty-year-olds meeting then and still being together now, married, feels unthinkable. Their story defies the script.

XY and the Fantasy of Freedom

“A photograph is not a home. But it can haunt one.”

What we had in those years, in Virginia, were glimpses — contraband images and rumors smuggled through the culture. For me though, one of the sharpest was XY Magazine. It was glossy, reckless, aspirational. Boys my age in tank tops and low-slung jeans, smiling like desire itself wasn’t dangerous.

Though I was just out of graduate school at the time, married, I still looked from time to time. One cover burned into my memory — the March 2006 issue. Two boys in a tiled shower, tangled together, one of them impossibly beautiful, facing the camera with his wrists pinned above his head. That boy was Jamie Atherton.

At the time, that cover looked like freedom. Only later did I learn, through Deep House, that it was published without his consent. For kids like me, it was intoxicating contraband. For Jamie, it was exploitation.

And here’s the coincidence that makes that issue unforgettable: tucked inside the same magazine was a teenage Colton Haynes, posing in a cowboy hat, boots, and jeans. One boy would go on to Hollywood stardom, forced into a suffocating closet even as the internet recycled those images endlessly. The other would become the husband at the heart of Atherton Lin’s love story.

Two lives, one glossy artifact: one exploited, one closeted. Both trapped in the contradictions of visibility in the 2000s — fantasy and erasure, promise and danger.

Colton’s Closet

By the time Colton Haynes found fame on Teen Wolf and Arrow, those XY images were already circulating online. His management’s response was silence. His job was to play straight heartthrobs, and the industry wasn’t ready for an openly gay superhero.

In 2016, a fan mentioned those XY photos on Tumblr, saying they missed when Colton was “openly gay.” His half-joking reply — “Was it a secret?” — was the closest he had come to acknowledging them. Within months, he came out formally, admitting he’d been closeted under pressure for years. Later he spoke of panic attacks, depression, rehab. The very photos that once promised freedom had become evidence he was forced to deny.

It’s impossible not to see the parallel. In the same magazine, Jamie Atherton’s image was exploited without consent, turned into an icon for strangers. Colton Haynes’s images became a weapon to keep him closeted, proof of something Hollywood didn’t want to admit.

That single issue of XY crystallizes the contradictions of gay visibility in that era: our fantasies were being printed in glossy color, but the real people inside them were stripped of agency.

The Improbability of Endurance

“We didn’t expect forever. But we kept choosing it anyway.”

Against that backdrop, the endurance of Jeremy and Jamie’s love is remarkable. They met in a moment when permanence was not part of the script, when same-sex relationships were supposed to be fleeting, unserious, or doomed. Yet here they are, decades later, married.

Meanwhile, I was at Hampden-Sydney, where a boyfriend wasn’t just unlikely — it was unimaginable. The deprivation wasn’t only legal; it was cultural. Whole generations of us missed the chance to stumble through love in our youth, to grow up alongside the people we desired. While Jeremy and Jamie were cobbling together a home without recognition, I was rehearsing a performance of masculinity so airtight it left no room for possibility.

That’s the quiet tragedy Deep House makes visible: queer life wasn’t just about the fight for marriage equality. It was about decades of deferred adolescence, of lives forced to begin in secrecy or not at all.

A Different Kind of Testimony

Deep House isn’t a victory lap. Atherton Lin resists the easy triumphalism that sometimes creeps into queer memoir. Yes, marriage equality arrived. Yes, permanence became possible. But the focus is on the long in-between, the limbo years when recognition was withheld, when intimacy itself was provisional.

That’s what makes the book more than memoir. It’s testimony. It documents what was denied, what was risked, what was endured. It tells the truth behind the glossy images — the lives lived beneath the contraband fantasies of XY.

And it reminds us how fragile representation was, and is. One man exploited, another closeted, both turned into symbols. And yet, in Atherton Lin’s telling, both reclaimed: Jamie as the partner in a lasting marriage, Colton as an openly gay man still standing after Hollywood tried to erase him.

Joy and Loss

Reading Deep House, I feel both joy and loss. Joy, because their story proves that queer futures were being carved out even in the 1990s, in spite of everything. Loss, because I wasn’t given that horizon. At Hampden-Sydney, I didn’t even know to imagine a life like theirs.

But maybe that’s the power of a book like this. It insists that our stories didn’t begin with Obergefell, or with rainbow flags flying from city halls. They were already unfolding in kitchens, in bedrooms, across border checkpoints, and even in the pages of a controversial magazine.

Permanence was possible, even then. Love survived DOMA. It outlasted bureaucracy and borders. And it reminds us — quietly but insistently — that the stories we weren’t allowed to see were happening anyway.

Why I Keep Reading

That’s why I keep coming back to books like Deep House. Jeremy Atherton Lin is doing the work I want to do: weaving the personal with the historical, the intimate with the political. His story of Jamie isn’t just about a marriage. It’s about the culture that tried to erase it, the magazine covers that distorted it, the laws that sought to deny it. And still, it endured.

In writing under Caleb Reed, I’m chasing that same braid. To tell the stories of where I was — in a fraternity house in rural Virginia — alongside the stories of what I missed, what I wasn’t allowed to imagine. To hold both joy and loss in the same frame. To testify, in my own way, that our lives have always been larger than the scripts written for us.

Author’s Note: This was another selection from Eric Cervini’s (Very Gay) Book Club. Remember my commitment to read whatever they sent? This was one of those. I had started Gay Bar a year or so ago but left my Kindle on a plane and never got around to finishing it. When Deep House came, I read it in 2 or 3 days. I literally couldn’t put it down. Then I went back and re-read Gay Bar because I couldn’t get enough of Atherton-Lin’s style: mixing in facts, history, deeply personal experience, and genuinely good story telling to deliver his message.

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In an essay last week, I wrote about The Great Gatsby—about Robert Redford, the green light, and my mother’s old Scribner set that sat like a monument on the bookshelf of my childhood home. Gatsby was the Fitzgerald everyone knew, the one teachers assigned and movie stars embodied. It was the novel I inherited, the glittering story I was told was important before I was even old enough to read it.

But Gatsby was never the Fitzgerald who felt like mine.

That distinction belongs to This Side of Paradise, his first, unruly novel. If Gatsby was the book I was given, Paradise was the book that claimed me. Where Gatsby dazzled with polish, This Side of Paradise sprawled with rawness. Where Gatsby mythologized, Paradise confessed. And in Amory Blaine, Fitzgerald gave me a character I didn’t just study—I identified with, uncomfortably and completely.

Published in 1920 when Fitzgerald was just twenty-three, This Side of Paradise isn’t tidy. It lurches from prose to poems to playlets to long passages that feel like diary entries disguised as fiction. It reads like a young man trying everything at once, desperate to be noticed, to matter. And it worked—overnight it made Fitzgerald famous, and by extension, it convinced Zelda Sayre he was worthy of her.

But what stayed with me wasn’t the acclaim. It was Amory Blaine: spoiled, arrogant, endlessly self-mythologizing, convinced of his own brilliance—and underneath it all, deeply insecure. He reinvents himself constantly, trying on roles like costumes: the romantic, the cynic, the striver. None fit for long. By the novel’s end, he isn’t triumphant. He isn’t ruined, either. He’s stripped bare, facing himself without disguise.

That was the first time literature held up a mirror to me.

As a teenager, I devoured boarding-school movies like Dead Poets Society and School Ties. They carried the electricity of young men living together: blazers and dorms, whispered rivalries, midnight laughter spilling down hallways. For many of us, they were a gay awakening. The young stars Ethan Hawke, Brendan Fraser, Matt Damon —became the faces of a thousand first crushes. Wil Wheaton even jokes about how many gay awakenings he was responsible for, and Keith Coogan posted about School Ties just today on Instagram. They knew exactly what they were doing: casting beautiful, vulnerable boys in stories about identity, loyalty, and exposure.

In School Ties Matt Damon’s hostility toward Brendan Fraser’s character seems rooted in jealousy, class insecurity, and rivalry. But beneath that, there’s an unmistakable undercurrent of something more complicated—an intensity of fixation, resentment, and perhaps unrecognized attraction. The infamous shower scene in School Ties wasn’t just plot; it was recognition. The fear of being found out, the rivalry charged with intimacy. The same tension hums in Amory—the dread of exposure, the ache to belong, the pulse of being seen.

It wasn’t taboo; it was atmosphere. The smell of sweat, dirty laundry, wet towels and cologne. Beer hidden under beds, cigarette smoke drifting out windows. I could feel the current of living with young men in close quarters, where everything was competition and intimacy.

That’s the energy Amory spends an entire novel chasing—not sex, exactly, but recognition. The thrill of mattering in a world where everyone auditions for a role.

When I went to college, I didn’t end up at Princeton like Amory but at a small, all-male college in Virginia. Belonging there, as in Paradise, was performance: which fraternity you pledged, how you dressed, how you carried yourself. I built a story about who I was supposed to be and tried to live up to it. On the surface it looked like confidence; inside it felt like acting.

That was Amory too. Fitzgerald himself wasn’t much different—a boy from St. Paul who never quite fit at Princeton, watching the well-born glide through life with ease, desperate to belong. This Side of Paradise was his ticket in. It bought him celebrity and Zelda, but the novel is clear-eyed about the emptiness of it all.

By the final pages, Amory isn’t celebrated; he’s exhausted. His illusions have fallen away. The things he thought would make him exceptional—his looks, wit, ambition—aren’t enough. All he’s left with is honesty.

That honesty landed harder than Gatsby’s grandeur ever did.

Atmosphere as Memory

Rereading This Side of Paradise, what I notice most isn’t plot but atmosphere. Fitzgerald doesn’t dwell on it, but the scent is there: cigarettes and sweat, wool blazers worn too many humid nights, books thumbed by countless hands.

That smell was the background of my youth, a mirror I couldn’t look at directly. Like Amory, I thought I chased tradition, legacy, success. What I really sought was recognition: the desire to be seen, to matter, to be chosen.

Masks and Mirrors

Amory’s greatest fear is ordinariness. Mine was being found out.

I wasn’t the alpha male. I wasn’t the smooth, confident guy everyone admired. I was the kid pretending. Every day felt like a test of whether I could pass. Despite objective evidence—grades, scholarships, leadership—I lived as if it could collapse at any moment if someone noticed I didn’t truly belong.

That’s why Amory mattered to me. Vain, flawed, insufferable, he was also real. His masks were my masks. Fitzgerald didn’t give him a tragic grandeur or heroic arc. He gave him what I recognized: the exhaustion of pretending, the stripping away of illusion, the faint hope of starting over honestly.

Reading It Again

Now, rereading This Side of Paradise, I see Amory and Fitzgerald differently—not as arrogant young men but as boys announcing their pain. And I see my nineteen-year-old self in their pages: closeted, anxious, performing belonging, desperate to be chosen.

The book has become a time capsule. It reminds me that belonging built on performance never lasts. Masks slip, and when they do, you’re left with yourself.

That’s why This Side of Paradise remains my favorite Fitzgerald novel. It isn’t perfect—it’s messy. But that mess is what makes it honest.

References & Links

• This Side of Paradise — F. Scott Fitzgerald (Amazon) or (Bookshop.org)

• The Great Gatsby — F. Scott Fitzgerald (Amazon) or (Bookshop.org)

• Dead Poets Society (1989 film) — original screenplay by Tom Schulman, later novelized

• School Ties (1992 film) — original screenplay by Dick Wolf (Law & Order) and Darryl Ponicsan

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I didn’t even pick up Self-Sabotage on purpose. It landed in my lap through Eric Cervini’s Very Gay Book Club, which I’d joined on a whim. The club promised monthly selections from across queer history and culture. When I signed up, I made a vow: I would read every book, no matter what. Even if it wasn’t something I would normally gravitate toward.

That’s how I ended up with Jeffrey Self’s memoir.

A book I didn’t know I needed

Self-Sabotage is exactly what its title suggests—funny, chaotic, painfully self-deprecating. Self has a way of turning disaster into camp, humiliation into punchline. His stories about career pratfalls and dating mishaps carry the wink of someone who knows that laughing at yourself is sometimes the only way forward.

I enjoyed it. It wasn’t trying to be a grand statement on queer life, and that was part of the charm. It felt like listening to a witty friend overshare at brunch. There were moments I laughed out loud, others I winced in recognition, and still others where I thought: “only a gay man could describe humiliation this vividly and make it feel glamorous.”

But what lingered with me most wasn’t any one anecdote. It was a name tucked into the pages: Cole Escola.

The breadcrumb

At first, it barely registered. Just another reference, a passing nod in a book full of them. But queer culture often spreads that way—not through official channels or assigned reading lists, but through whispers, cameos, side mentions. One name tips you toward another. A late-night clip leads to an obsession. A book you might never have picked up leaves behind a breadcrumb, and if you follow it, you find yourself somewhere you never expected.

For me, that breadcrumb led to Cole Escola.

I went digging—clips on YouTube, sketches from their cult series Jeffery & Cole Casserole, oddball performances tucked away online. The first impression was chaos. Escola was grotesque, campy, deliberately off-kilter. But there was something magnetic about it, too. Beneath the shrieking absurdity was control, a sense that they knew exactly what they were doing even as they seemed to unravel.

Then I found their appearances on At Home with Amy Sedaris. Watching Escola spar with Sedaris was like watching a generational handoff. Sedaris, with her Strangers with Candy pedigree, is practically queer comedy royalty—part saint, part saboteur. Seeing her fold Escola into her world felt like witnessing a lineage in real time. The DNA was obvious: anarchic, grotesque, self-aware, and deeply funny.

From downtown to Sunday morning

And then came the moment when I realized this wasn’t just my private rabbit hole. One Sunday morning in May 2025, I flipped on CBS. There was Mo Rocca, introducing Cole Escola to America on CBS Sunday Morning.

I grew up watching Rocca on The Daily Show, back when I didn’t even know he was gay. He was just another sharp, witty correspondent in Jon Stewart’s orbit. To see him years later—openly gay, thoughtful, still funny—sitting across from Cole Escola on Sunday Morning was unexpectedly moving. Here was a journalist I respected, someone who had been in my living room for years, now giving serious attention to a queer artist on one of television’s most venerable institutions.

If you saw the segment, you’ll remember the moment: Rocca, with that mix of mischief and earnestness, asked Escola what it meant to be called a “demon twink.” Escola, deadpan and sly, volleyed it right back—embracing the chaos of the label while making it feel like an artistic mission statement. Watching that exchange was surreal. A performer I’d first glimpsed as a name in Jeffrey Self’s memoir was now beamed into living rooms after church, dubbed a demon twink on national television.

I would never have imagined such a thing on Sunday Morning back when it was all stained glass and small-town Americana. The show used to be built on comfort—covered bridges, antique shops, polite piano riffs. The idea of a gay correspondent seemed far-fetched, let alone a segment where “demon twink” rolled out naturally in the middle of a conversation. And yet here it was: Mo Rocca and Cole Escola, broadcast not as niche comedy but as Sunday ritual, right after church.

(Read the Story here): CBS Sunday Morning interview with Cole Escola)

That was the moment I realized Escola wasn’t just a breadcrumb on my personal journey. They were about to break open into the broader culture.

The trip

By then, I was all in. My partner and I planned a quick trip to New York in June 2025—three days, the kind of trip where you overpack a weekend with too many restaurants and too many museums. But the real reason we picked those dates had nothing to do with MoMA or bagels. It was Oh, Mary!

And for once, I felt like I’d beaten the clock. I managed to buy tickets before the Tony win on June 8, before the show tipped from buzzy to impossible. For the first time in my life, I felt like I was in on something early—so early that I even knew about Cole before my kids did, and certainly before my parents saw them smiling on Sunday Morning.

We saw it near the end of Escola’s run, just after they had won the Tony. There’s something electric about catching an artist in that exact moment—still raw enough to feel dangerous, but suddenly validated by the establishment.

The theater buzzed with anticipation. The group behind us was seeing the play for their 3rd or 4th time. The air felt charged, as if everyone there knew they were about to see something that would be talked about for years. And then the chaos began.

Honest Abe, queered

Maybe it hit me harder because of my own history. I was born on Lincoln’s birthday, and as a kid I was forever told to “be like Honest Abe.” So there I was, decades later, sitting in a Broadway theater watching Cole Escola turn Mary Todd Lincoln into a shrieking, drunken chaos demon—and their version of Lincoln, too, coded as into men. The whole thing felt like a delicious, absurd collision between the myth I’d grown up with and the queer art I’d found as an adult.

Mary Todd Lincoln, unhinged

It’s hard to describe Oh, Mary! if you haven’t seen it. Escola’s Mary Todd staggers across the stage, flailing, collapsing, resurrecting, dragging American history through queer camp until it collapses under the weight of its own absurdity. One minute they’re shrieking in hoop skirts, the next they’re in grotesque melodrama, then pivoting into a one-liner so sharp it makes the whole room howl.

It was grotesque. It was hilarious. It was deeply moving, in a way that’s hard to articulate. The show didn’t “reinterpret” history—it demolished it, then rebuilt it as something truer in its ridiculousness than any straight textbook could provide.

The audience roared. The energy in the room was unlike anything I’d felt in a theater. We weren’t just watching a play. We were watching a moment.

Walking back to the hotel that night, sticky from the June heat, I thought about how unlikely it was that I’d ended up there. A book club vow. A messy but funny memoir. A breadcrumb in the form of a name. And suddenly, I was in a Broadway theater watching Cole Escola torch American history and win a Tony for it.

The constellation

That’s how queer art often works. It doesn’t move in straight lines. We don’t find each other through official channels or carefully curated syllabi. We find each other through asides, cameos, references that only make sense if you follow them. Jeffrey Self points to Cole Escola. Escola links to Amy Sedaris. Mo Rocca beams the whole thing into mainstream America. A Big Gay Book Club pick leads to a night in a theater that feels both underground and historic.

It’s a constellation, not a roadmap.

And that’s why I’ll always remember Self-Sabotage fondly. Not because it was the most brilliant queer memoir I’ve read—it wasn’t trying to be—but because it did something just as important. It connected me to someone else. It left behind a breadcrumb that, once followed, turned into one of the best cultural experiences of my life.

Not every book has to change your life. Some just have to point you to someone who will.

That’s what Jeffrey Self did for me.

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When Alan Downs published The Velvet Rage in 2005, gay men finally had a book that said the quiet part out loud. Downs, a psychologist who spent years listening to the private pain of his patients, distilled a truth many of us already suspected: that shame is the defining wound of growing up gay. Not just shame in the obvious sense—the whispered slur, the disapproving parent, the pastor’s sermon about abomination—but a deeper, subtler shame. The kind that seeps into you long before you’ve acted on a single desire. The kind that tells you, in a hundred ways, that who you are is wrong.

Downs framed it as “the trauma of shame,” and his theory is deceptively simple. Gay boys grow up in a world that equates masculinity with heterosexuality. From their earliest memories, they absorb the message that to be a man is to want women, to perform toughness, to avoid anything that might be labeled “feminine.” When they realize they don’t feel those things—or don’t feel them the way they’re supposed to—they experience a rupture. They split. One self goes underground, hidden away. Another self, the “acceptable” one, is pushed forward to keep them safe.

That split sets in motion a cycle of three stages: hiding, overcompensating, and—if they manage to survive long enough—authenticity. The last is the hardest, because it requires dismantling the armor that once kept them alive. It requires telling the truth in a world that has punished them for it.

The first draft of masculinity: hiding

If you’re a boy in a straight world, masculinity is handed to you like a script. The trouble is, the lines don’t always fit in your mouth. You’re expected to shout them anyway.

At a southern boarding school, it’s the script of early mornings on the athletic field, where boys learn that bruises are badges of honor and tenderness is a liability. In a fraternity house, it’s the script of brotherhood performed through beer funnels, shouted chants, and the carefully choreographed chaos of pledge rituals. In the military, it’s the script of obedience, toughness, and a body stripped of privacy and pressed into the service of the group.

The straight boys get to play these roles without irony. They may not love every detail, but the general thrust of the script matches their desires. For the gay boy in their midst, though, it’s a different story. He’s being asked to act a part that was never written for him. He learns to watch himself from the outside, editing his gestures, curating his voice, borrowing lines from movies and teammates to patch over the parts of him that might give him away. It’s acting as survival.

My own rehearsal

I know that stage too well. For me, hiding wasn’t a choice so much as a reflex. I spent years in environments where masculinity was currency—an all male school, in locker rooms, a fraternity and eventually in hospital boardrooms. You wore the blazer or the suit. You carried yourself with authority. You laughed at the right jokes. You learned, without anyone saying it outright, that the worst sin was to be exposed.

So I built a self that looked the part. I got good at the job, good at keeping the peace, good at convincing everyone—including myself—that I was exactly what the world wanted me to be. I married a woman, raised children, and wore my titles like badges. In the rearview mirror, I can see that I was still just reciting lines from someone else’s script. At the time, it felt like life itself depended on my delivery.

Overcompensation: masculinity as performance art

The second stage in Downs’s framework — overcompensation — flourishes in these all-male crucibles. If you’re a gay boy trying to survive at a fraternity, a prep school, or boot camp, the safest strategy is to become the best at the performance. You don’t just learn the Greek alphabet; you shout it louder, faster, with more conviction. You don’t just run laps; you run until you collapse, determined to prove you’re tougher — or, in my case, more successful — than anyone else. You don’t just marry; you build the picture-perfect family, complete with the house, over-scheduled kids, and an Instagram-ready Christmas card, as if domestic success might erase the shame you’ve carried since you were twelve.

I was never good at sports, so I set out to be the “most likely to succeed.” But my idea of success was warped: titles, houses, boardrooms, a seat at the head of the table. Every achievement was less about joy and more about proof — proof to myself that I belonged. I was never the alpha male, but I pretended to be one. Most days I felt like an imposter, convinced I didn’t deserve to be there and that sooner or later I’d be found out.

The irony was that I had the credentials, the experience, the fat paycheck, the glowing performance reviews. By every objective measure I was exactly where I was supposed to be. But shame doesn’t care about evidence. I lived every day with the fear that it might all come crashing down at any moment.

From the outside, it looked like triumph. From the inside, it was exhaustion. Every accolade, every promotion, every bonus, every perfect family photo was another stitch in the costume. The performance became oxygen. You keep going, because stopping feels like suffocating.

Ethan’s second act

In Line & Verse, Ethan is still in this overcompensation stage. He arrives at Westmore determined not just to blend in but to excel. He memorizes fraternity lore faster than anyone else. He drinks harder. He smiles wider. He’s the pledge who seems to be thriving, even as shame hums beneath his skin.

But overcompensation is never clean. At the Delta Chi house, the rituals designed to enforce straight masculinity end up creating moments Ethan can’t quite categorize. In the middle of a late-night line-up, with brothers barking insults and pledges lined shoulder to shoulder, he feels a flicker of something else—an intimacy beneath the noise. In the cramped motel bed after, pressed against another boy, he feels both the thrill of desire and the panic of exposure. It is the paradox of all-male spaces: the more they demand conformity, the more they inadvertently create the conditions for homoerotic energy to leak through.

My own overperformance

That paradox isn’t confined to fiction. In my own life, the fraternity house bled into my executive roles. The same lessons carried over: be louder, be stronger, be the one who can handle anything. I learned to measure myself by titles and margins, to define worth by performance. It wasn’t ambition alone that drove me—it was the hope that enough success might finally quiet the shame I carried. Spoiler: it never did.

The quiet collapse

Downs warns that overcompensation eventually curdles into a second trauma. You discover that no amount of success will fix the wound. You can earn the corner office or the Medal of Honor or the title of “Best Pledge,” and still feel hollow at 3 a.m. You can be the loudest voice in the room and still believe you’re an imposter.

That collapse came for me after twenty years of playing the part. I had the résumé, the corner office, the carefully maintained life. I had even convinced myself the role was who I was. But when the mask cracked—when anxiety and depression started seeping through—I realized how much of myself I had buried. That was the moment I finally came out, at 45, decades after I first knew. It wasn’t bravery as much as exhaustion. I couldn’t keep performing.

Ethan, at Westmore, hasn’t reached that breaking point yet. He’s still caught in the rush of validation, still convinced that if he just performs masculinity better than anyone else, he’ll be safe. But the story I’m telling through him is really about the inevitability of that crack, the way shame always finds its way out, and the terrifying, necessary possibility that comes after: authenticity.

Toward authenticity

The third stage of The Velvet Rage—authenticity—is where the real work begins. Downs describes it as reclaiming the self you buried in childhood—the self that didn’t fit the script. Authenticity doesn’t mean rejecting masculinity altogether. It means rejecting the idea that masculinity has to look one way. It means making peace with your own softness, your own longing, your own contradictions.

For me, authenticity didn’t come at 18, like Ethan dreams it might. It came decades later, after the divorce, after the career unraveling, after the grief had piled up high enough that there was nothing left to lose. Coming out in midlife meant stepping out of a costume I had worn so long it felt like skin. It was terrifying. But when I finally spoke the truth, I realized the world didn’t collapse. I did not, in fact, die. I breathed.

It’s not a clean journey. Shame doesn’t evaporate just because you name it. But authenticity—telling the truth, refusing the script, allowing yourself to be seen—is the only way out of the velvet cage. It is also the only way toward a masculinity that feels like it belongs to us, not to the culture that tried to define us out of existence.

Why these stories matter

All-male spaces—whether it’s the ivy-draped fraternity, the stone-walled boarding school, or the regimented barracks—were designed as factories for a certain kind of man. They produce discipline, loyalty, toughness. They also produce masks. For straight boys, those masks might be uncomfortable, but they more or less fit. For gay boys, the masks cut into the skin.

The Velvet Rage remains vital because it reminds us that the performance of masculinity is not the same as identity, and that shame doesn’t have to be a life sentence. Line & Verse exists in the same spirit: a fictional story that reflects the lived reality of so many of us. Ethan’s wrinkled blazer, his panicked longing, his overcompensating charm—they aren’t just plot points. They’re a record of how the script of masculinity gets rehearsed, and how one boy begins, slowly, to imagine stepping off the stage.

When I read Downs years ago, it felt like someone had finally put my own life into words. By then I had already spent decades hiding, overcompensating, and living out a script that never fit me. I wish I’d had Ethan’s story when I was 18. I wish I’d had The Velvet Rage when I was 20. Maybe I would have recognized the cage sooner. Maybe I would have stepped offstage earlier. Or maybe I needed to live the script to understand just how false it was.

Either way, I write these stories now because I know there are boys out there rehearsing the same lines I once did. Some of them are in fraternity basements. Some are in locker rooms. Some are in military barracks. All of them are learning the same thing: that their bodies and desires make them suspect. All of them are trying to survive by acting out someone else’s idea of a man.

The task ahead—the one Downs sketched, the one Ethan embodies, the one I had to face in midlife—isn’t to perfect the performance. It’s to reject the script entirely. It’s to stop measuring yourself against a definition of manhood that was never written for you in the first place. It’s to risk being seen as you really are, even if it feels like standing naked under a spotlight.

That risk is terrifying. But it is also the only way to breathe. And when you finally take that breath, you realize that the velvet cage was never locked. You’ve been carrying the key all along.

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I wasn’t looking for her. But this Sunday, in the middle of North Carolina, I found The Lady Chablis waiting for me on a used bookstore shelf. Brand new copy of Hiding My Candy, $1.50. A memoir that’s been out of print for years, tucked away like an inside joke. The Grand Empress of Savannah, reduced to a clearance sticker. And yet when I cracked it open, she was there — sharp, unapologetic, unforgettable. Exactly the same woman who stole Clint Eastwood’s dreary film adaptation of Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil and refused to be anything but herself.

Back in 1994, John Berendt’s Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil turned Savannah into a legend. A New York reporter comes down for a Christmas party and stumbles into Savannah’s crime of the century — Jim Williams accused of killing his young lover. It wasn’t just true crime. It was travelogue, gossip column, Southern Gothic theater. For 216 weeks it sat on the New York Times bestseller list, drawing busloads of tourists to the Mercer House and turning eccentric locals into characters that could never be forgotten. The timing was uncanny. The Savannah College of Art and Design (SCAD) was restoring crumbling warehouses into classrooms, filling the streets with students hauling portfolios and creative energy. The city had been fading, but Berendt handed it a story people wanted to believe. Suddenly Savannah wasn’t a stop on the way to Florida — it was a destination.

Of course Hollywood noticed. Eastwood directed the movie in 1997, and even with the most colorful characters playing themselves, managed to strip the book of all its strangeness. Kevin Spacey, mumbled his way through Jim Williams, draining all the charm out of a man known for it. John Cusack looked like he’d wandered onto the wrong set, and the whole 2.5 hour thing dragged. The only reason to watch it — the only spark of life — was Lady Chablis. Playing herself, she didn’t just light up the screen; she torched it. She didn’t need a script. She was the script. If you want to understand Savannah in that moment, her memoir remains the better text.

I grew up just up the coast, in another Lowcountry city that hasn’t been so fortunate. Our downtown sagged under the weight of mill jobs that disappeared one by one. The riverfront was walled off by smokestacks and steel fences. There were churches and oak-lined streets too, but no book, no art school, no drag queen to save us. That’s what made Savannah sting. You could feel the difference just walking its squares. Eccentricity was currency there. In my hometown, eccentricity was something to be whispered about, not put on display. Savannah let its oddballs speak; we kept ours contained to the front porch.

It’s easy to roll your eyes at tourists clutching cocktail cups and lining up for ghost tours, but Berendt gave Savannah something priceless: permission. Permission to be strange, to be excessive, to live loudly instead of shrinking. Lady Chablis embodied that permission, on the page and on the screen.

The Lowcountry is full of characters and ghosts. Some cities polish theirs into legends. Others bury them, hoping nobody notices. Growing up, I saw both sides. Savannah got a second act. My hometown still waits. As I flip through Hiding My Candy, I’m reminded of the split: between a city that let its eccentrics lead and one that made the safer bet on stability, order, and silence.

Savannah lived. We’re still waiting.

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• Hiding My Candy: The Autobiography of the Grand Empress of Savannah by Lady Chablis is out of print, but you can find a copy. The paperback and Kindle versions are currently available on Amazon

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Edmund White passed away earlier this year. The news came quietly, the way most literary obituaries do these days. For a man who shaped the landscape of gay literature more than almost anyone else, the muted response felt like an oversight. But perhaps that quiet passing was fitting. White didn't write for mainstream applause; he wrote for those of us in the shadows, needing words that reflected desires we barely admitted to ourselves.

Read the NYT Obituary Here

His landmark novel A Boy’s Own Story, published in 1982, was groundbreaking. It wasn’t the first gay coming-of-age novel, but it was among the first to reach a broad audience without sanitizing itself for polite society. White’s narrator is messy—contradictory, often cruel and self-pitying. He wasn't sanitized for straight readers; he was scandalously human, and necessary.

Most coming-of-age narratives follow a neat arc: innocence lost, self discovered, adulthood achieved. White shattered that expectation. His narrator doesn't arrive at tidy resolutions or neat life lessons. Instead, he stumbles through shame and desire, humiliation and longing. The novel’s beauty lies in its refusal to offer comfort, insisting instead on honesty about wanting something unnamed, something denied by the world around you.

I didn’t read A Boy’s Own Story until much later in life. By then, I was 45, my adolescence a distant memory. And yet, reading it then felt like discovering a secret diary I could have written myself. White’s prose unlocked feelings I hadn’t fully acknowledged: the intertwined nature of longing and shame, how secrecy felt protective yet suffocating.

Early in the novel, the narrator imagines an intimacy with another boy—tentative, electric, terrifying. He simultaneously desires and fears it. That duality resonated deeply. I remembered locker rooms where I kept my eyes lowered too long, bonfires where I watched someone across the flames, convincing myself it was mere admiration. White captured that ache, that split-second recognition of desire followed by the immediate rush to bury it.

Reading the novel at 45 differed significantly from reading it at 15 or 20. At 15, it might have scandalized me; at 20, made me defensive; at 45, it felt timely. White’s honesty provided permission I hadn’t realized I still needed.

What stayed with me about the novel was its precision—White depicted longing in a way both universal and intensely personal. The narrator doesn’t merely desire sex; he seeks recognition, intimacy, affirmation—to be seen without being destroyed. This is the heart of the book.

White’s genius lay in refusing to sand down the rough edges. He didn't give us noble victims or gay saints. Instead, he gave us a boy who was selfish, manipulative, sometimes unlikable. That mattered profoundly. For decades, queer characters had been tragic martyrs or comedic sidekicks. White presented a fully realized, messy individual. Take it or leave it.

White’s courage to publish such a book in 1982, as America approached the AIDS crisis amid widespread, institutionalized homophobia, was profound. He refused to render his characters safe or palatable, refusing to apologize for their desires. This was defiance, not merely literature.

For me, A Boy’s Own Story was less about nostalgia and more about the recognition of hidden truths. It articulated what many of us silently lived: this is how it feels to carry secrets we couldn't name.

You don't have to be gay to feel this book’s power—only to have carried shame or desired something forbidden. White's novel unsettles readers intentionally, refusing to conform.

As I now write my own work about fraternity houses, pledging rituals, and the charged intimacy between young men, I feel this lineage profoundly. My characters exchange secretive glances, feel the electric charge of a casual touch, questioning if they're imagining it. That electricity owes a debt to White. Without him, writing these moments honestly might be impossible. He cracked open the door, and we continue walking through.

The title itself, A Boy’s Own Story, is ironic, referencing the adventure stories of Boy’s Own Paper—tales of heroism and conquest. White offers a different adventure: the perils of desire, intimacy’s risks, battles with oneself rather than dragons or distant lands. It's simultaneously a reclamation and a subversion.

Edmund White is often called the father of modern gay literature, but that undersells him. He was more a cartographer, mapping terrain the rest of us could navigate. He showed desire could be depicted with precision and poetry, creating space for messy, contradictory characters who defied neat morality tales.

His death reminded me how much we owe him. In a culture preferring queer narratives wrapped neatly in triumph—Love wins, It gets better—White’s work reminds us the truth is often messier. Sometimes love doesn't win; it's complicated, shameful, unfinished. That’s human.

Reflecting on my first intimacies, they weren't triumphs but tentative negotiations—a hand beneath a shirt, a whispered word, an extended glance. Imperfect, electric, secret. That’s what White captured: the lived reality, not the fantasy.

For those of us raised in conservative environments, his writing remains dangerous and essential. Literature doesn’t always console. Sometimes its highest calling is truth-telling.

A Boy’s Own Story isn't comforting. It's a mirror reflecting the parts we prefer hidden—the longing we buried, shame carried silently, unresolved contradictions. Yet it offers a strange liberation.

Edmund White is gone, but his story endures. For anyone feeling out of place, desiring something unnamable, A Boy’s Own Story remains, not to comfort, but to reveal truth.

Perhaps that is literature’s greatest gift: not comfort, but truth.

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When E.M. Forster finished Maurice in 1914, he locked the manuscript in a drawer. It was too dangerous to release into the world. The novel tells the story of a young man at Cambridge who discovers love with another man—not as scandal, but as ordinary, inevitable, and profoundly human. Forster knew that publishing such a book in Edwardian England, where sex between men was still a criminal offense, could have destroyed his life and reputation. So he waited.

He lived another fifty years. Maurice was only published after his death in 1971. By then, the world had shifted just enough that the novel could appear in print, and readers could recognize it for what it was: not a curiosity, not a relic, but a story that still throbbed with relevance.

What struck me, reading Maurice for the first time, was how modern it feels. Forster doesn’t treat queer love as exotic or shameful. He writes it as natural—full of longing, confusion, joy, and risk. The novel’s drama comes not from caricature, but from repression: the pressure to deny yourself, to perform a version of life that others have scripted for you.

Forster once wrote, “Only connect.” That impulse—to connect honestly with another person—is what Maurice dramatizes. It’s also what institutions like family, school, and church often work hardest to suppress. Reading it now, I can’t help but see echoes of Ethan at Westmore in Line & Verse: a boy trying to pass through fraternity rituals and social chaos while carrying a truth he doesn’t yet have the language for.

When I was in college in the late ’90s, I didn’t have Maurice on my shelf. I had the paperbacks every earnest young man was supposed to read: Hemingway, Salinger, Fitzgerald. If I’d stumbled across Forster then, I don’t know if I would have been ready—or if it might have saved me years of silence.

What I do know is this: when I finally read Maurice years later, it felt like a door quietly opening in a hallway I thought was locked. It didn’t shout. It simply reminded me that love between men has always existed, has always mattered, and has always deserved to be told as plainly as Forster told it.

The story’s afterlife is as important as the book itself. In 1987, Merchant Ivory adapted Maurice into a film, casting a young Hugh Grant before he became the Hugh Grant everyone knows. When I read the novel, I already knew Grant was in the movie. The whole time I was imagining Maurice as Hugh Grant, only to be shocked when I later watched the film and realized he wasn’t the title character at all. That twist in expectation somehow made the story even richer—reminding me that adaptations shape our imagination, sometimes even before we’ve seen them.

For many viewers, the Merchant Ivory film was their first encounter with Forster’s novel—and their first time seeing queer love on screen with tenderness instead of ridicule. The film gave Maurice its cinematic texture: wood-paneled halls, soft English light, and that charged stillness of a world on the verge of change. Like the novel, it refuses to apologize. It insists that this kind of love deserves beauty.

And the ending? Without giving it away, I’ll just say this: Forster made a deliberate choice to reject the tragic conventions of his time. Instead of ruin, Maurice closes with something different—something radical for the era, and still subversive today. It’s an ending that insists on love, connection, and defiance, and Merchant Ivory gives that choice a visual weight that lingers long after the credits.

Why does Maurice still matter now? Because repression hasn’t vanished. In some places, it has only shifted form: from criminal statutes to book bans, from whispered threats to loud political crusades. We live in a moment where queer stories are once again contested, sometimes literally pulled from shelves. Forster’s decision to write his novel in secret was born of fear; our obligation to read it now is an act of defiance.

Reading Maurice is also an act of recognition. It’s a reminder that the ache of silence isn’t new, and that the possibility of connection—despite everything—is older and stronger than repression itself.

If you’ve never read Maurice, now’s the time. Whether you’re discovering it fresh or revisiting it years later, the novel still has the power to whisper across a century: your love is real, and it belongs here.

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If you want to follow along—or if you’re curious about the list I plan to tackle—here’s the opening stack. These are the titles and shows that cracked something open for me, and in one way or another, ripple through Line & Verse.

I would also love to hear your recommendations - comment below👇

Maurice by E.M. Forster

Written in 1913 but published only after Forster’s death in 1971, Maurice is the classic queer novel that dared to imagine a happy ending. Set in Edwardian England, it follows Maurice Hall from schoolboy crushes through university friendships and into an adulthood where desire and convention collide. Forster gave queer readers something almost unheard of at the time: not tragedy, not punishment, but love that survives.

For anyone who grew up scanning the margins for scraps of recognition, Maurice feels like a quiet miracle — proof that our stories have always existed, even when the world wasn’t ready to see them.

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The Velvet Rage — Alan Downs

The book that finally made sense of the decades I spent trying to perform straight. Downs puts words around the shame that seeps into you long before you know its name. It’s not an easy read, but it’s an honest one.

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Me Talk Pretty One Day — David Sedaris

I’ve been reading Sedaris for years, but lately I find myself recognizing my own family in his. The way humor, cruelty, and tenderness get tangled together feels familiar in a way that’s both painful and comforting.

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On Being Different: What It Means to Be a Homosexual — Merle Miller

Published in 1971, it was radical just for existing. Miller’s essay-turned-book is plainspoken and devastating—one of the first public declarations that we are here, and that our lives matter.

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A Boy’s Own Story — Edmund White

A novel, yes, but for so many it read like confession. White captures the beauty and the brutality of growing up queer in a world that never intended to make space for you. It’s lyrical and merciless all at once.

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Bad Faith: Race and the Rise of the Religious Right — Randall Balmer

A history that cuts through the mythology. Balmer argues that the Religious Right wasn’t born out of “family values” but out of resistance to desegregation. Reading it, you see how control, faith, and fear built the cultural world so many of us grew up inside.

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Shiny Happy People (Amazon Prime Documentary)

I’ve already written about this one—it deserved its own essay. A chilling look at the Duggar family and the IBLP movement behind them. It’s about faith, control, and the cost of silence—themes that echo far beyond one family. Watch it on Amazon Prime

Back to the Frontier (HBO Max / Magnolia Network)

Three families attempt homesteading like it’s the 1880s—including two gay dads and their twins. Watching them navigate silence, self-sufficiency, and family in that context cracked something open in me. Their presence on screen is a quiet kind of disruptor—you can’t argue with visibility.

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This is just the beginning. Over time, I’ll add more—books that shaped me, shows that unsettled me, stories I wish I’d found sooner. Some may even echo inside the chapters of Line & Verse.

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Almost from the moment I learned how, I became an avid reader. In the first grade, the teacher had to start sending me across the hall to the 3rd grade classroom for reading just to keep my attention. I devoured the Hardy Boys, quickly moving on to anything else I could find. Books gave me an escape from what was otherwise a pretty boring small town. I didn't need the movie, I could easily imagine Frank and Joe tooling around in their smart convertible, solving mysteries without getting so much as a hair out of place. I was hooked.

As a teenager, I sat in High School Literature classes in the late 80s and early 90s, we studied Forster. We studied Baldwin. But not the whole story.

Forster’s Howard’s End made the syllabus; Maurice — his love story between two men — stayed locked in a drawer until after his death. We spent weeks on the Harlem Renaissance, but never touched Baldwin’s Giovanni’s Room, or his sexuality. Despite the fact that Baldwin was openly gay in his lifetime.

Those books weren’t missing by accident. They were intentionally left out. Anything queer was stamped “adult.” Not adult like college-level, but adult like dirty, forbidden, unfit for students. And in that time, there was no Google search, no Kindle, no TikTok queer kid telling you where to look. All I had was the state-sanctioned textbook, the school library, and silence. We read Lord of the Flies, but not these books (remember what happens to the bookish, effete boys in that one?)

So I grew up knowing half the truth. Forster as humanist, without the book he locked in a drawer because it dared to show two men choosing each other. Baldwin as novelist of race and faith, without the Paris love story he published while living openly as a gay man.

The message was clear: queerness existed, but not for us. Not for high school. Not for me. I couldn’t see myself reflected in what we were reading. Didn’t understand why the teacher was so emphatic about a two line exchange between a male and female character. If anything, this only added credibility to the feelings of shame that were already there, and forced me to remain quiet about what I was feeling.

Caleb’s Reading List is my attempt to fill in the missing half. It’s not book reviews. It’s reclamation. Each week, I’ll take one book — sometimes a classic, sometimes something more modern — and write about what it means to me now, coming out later in life.

I also hope that it stresses the importance of this work and the work that fantastic queer authors are generating now. Depending on where you live today, the situation likely hasn’t changed much in those 40 years, or at the very least, it’s under threat.

Some of these books fall into three tiers:

• The books I should have had at sixteen — Maurice, Giovanni’s Room, Tales of the City. The ones that might have made me feel less alien.

• The books I found later — Dancer from the Dance, Borrowed Time, Close to the Knives. Too raw or devastating for a kid, but life-changing as an adult.

• The books I’m reading now — Ocean Vuong, Garth Greenwell, Brandon Taylor, TJ Klune. Proof that the canon is still being written, and that I’m still catching up.

This isn’t nostalgia. It’s reclamation. It’s about the silence built into our education, and the ways we reclaim those stories for ourselves now.

If you’ve been reading Line & Verse, think of this as its nonfiction sibling. That project imagines what it felt like to be closeted in the 90s; this one looks back at the bookshelf that wasn’t available to me then, and what it means to read it now.

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